Comments on: I’m torn http://www.runawayoctober.com/2008/05/im-torn/ Tue, 02 Dec 2008 00:41:05 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.6.2 By: Nicky http://www.runawayoctober.com/2008/05/im-torn/#comment-86 Nicky Fri, 30 May 2008 08:54:45 +0000 http://www.runawayoctober.com/?p=130#comment-86 Hey, your grandma is right... things are rough. And while I can't promise that they get easier really quickly, they DO get easier, I promise. I honestly don't remember the first couple of years of Aeryn's life, or that period of time in Tabitha's. Everything is just a blur of...doing. On demand. I had my thyroid checked a bunch of times, and they've all come out healthy... sometimes, you just have to be moody. Never let anyone underestimate you. And, yes, Matt has an important role to play in all of this too. Although he has another job, he can't make you feel like less for being at home with the boys. When day care for an infant and a toddler would run you around $300 a week, remind him that just by being there for your boys, not having to pay for gas to run to a job and day care, not having to pay for many many more dinners out... you are making 'money'! And like all jobs, you deserve a day off to go do your own things once in a while. He won't suggest this--I don't know why, but guys don't usually think of it. You will just need to decide that you are going to do it. It will be good for him to be with the boys for a day, to know all that you do. I have years of experience with this, too, darling. The older ones are getting much more manageable, but I know that I really suffered for adult interaction in those early years. I am here for a phone call ANY TIME (you can even wake me up... you are more important than sleep to me, hon), or anything you need. Really. I just feel bad that I am so far away. And I have at least that much laundry to fold. And dinner tomorrow is pizza. And I'M NOT MAKING IT. *grin* Hey, your grandma is right… things are rough. And while I can’t promise that they get easier really quickly, they DO get easier, I promise. I honestly don’t remember the first couple of years of Aeryn’s life, or that period of time in Tabitha’s. Everything is just a blur of…doing. On demand. I had my thyroid checked a bunch of times, and they’ve all come out healthy… sometimes, you just have to be moody. Never let anyone underestimate you. And, yes, Matt has an important role to play in all of this too. Although he has another job, he can’t make you feel like less for being at home with the boys. When day care for an infant and a toddler would run you around $300 a week, remind him that just by being there for your boys, not having to pay for gas to run to a job and day care, not having to pay for many many more dinners out… you are making ‘money’! And like all jobs, you deserve a day off to go do your own things once in a while. He won’t suggest this–I don’t know why, but guys don’t usually think of it. You will just need to decide that you are going to do it. It will be good for him to be with the boys for a day, to know all that you do.

I have years of experience with this, too, darling. The older ones are getting much more manageable, but I know that I really suffered for adult interaction in those early years. I am here for a phone call ANY TIME (you can even wake me up… you are more important than sleep to me, hon), or anything you need. Really. I just feel bad that I am so far away.

And I have at least that much laundry to fold. And dinner tomorrow is pizza. And I’M NOT MAKING IT. *grin*

]]> By: Grandma Betty http://www.runawayoctober.com/2008/05/im-torn/#comment-85 Grandma Betty Fri, 30 May 2008 01:55:34 +0000 http://www.runawayoctober.com/?p=130#comment-85 Aw Sweet Katie...you are where every mother with small children has been more than once ... there is no magical 'lala land' for Mommies ...vacations are out of the question .. your 'job' right now is to raise two rambuncious boys and keep Matt by your side ...be it folded laundry or a non burnt dinner .. choices have a way of making you know instinctivily which one needs to be handeled and which ones can be put on a back burner....You should have your thryoid checked ... I have been on thryoid meds for many years ..that should help with 'mood swings' ...trust yourself ...you have done a damn great job so far ...don't stop now ...HUGS for just you {{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{Katie}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}} Aw Sweet Katie…you are where every mother with small children has been more than once … there is no magical ‘lala land’ for Mommies …vacations are out of the question .. your ‘job’ right now is to raise two rambuncious boys and keep Matt by your side …be it folded laundry or a non burnt dinner .. choices have a way of making you know instinctivily which one needs to be handeled and which ones can be put on a back burner….You should have your thryoid checked … I have been on thryoid meds for many years ..that should help with ‘mood swings’ …trust yourself …you have done a damn great job so far …don’t stop now …HUGS for just you {{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{Katie}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}

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